Your team does not have to like you but they do need to trust and respect you...

I really like the way Ken Blanchard of the one minute manager makes things simple and this post of his on fastcompany is no different.

Ken and Scott talk in their article about the impact of trust on being able to implement change - something project managers are all so familiar with. It's a push for a new co-authored book (of course) Trust Works! Four Keys to Building Lasting Relationships, but useful none the less.

We've long known for healthy working relationships it is important to foster respect, trust and reliability and these are underpinned by ability to communicate directly, actively listen and to honour commitments. This fits in nicely with the 4 attributes the main author, Cynthia Olmstead, states:

• Able--Demonstrate Competence
• Believable--Act with Integrity
• Connected--Care about Others
• Dependable--Maintain Reliability

As a coach I now challenge you to take this A-B-C-D and rate yourself today - how are you doing? 

Ok so if you really are having trouble with the people, here are 5 excellent articles to help

Harvard Business Review has some of the best articles around when it comes to general management issues and this compendium of 5 is no slouch if you are in need of tips how to manage difficult people.

• Three Ways to Deal with a Passive-Aggressive Colleague - Give feedback. Focus on the work, not the person. Ask for commitment.  "How to Deal With a Passive-Aggressive Peer" by Amy Jen Su and Muriel Maignan Wilkins.

• Keep Your Composure, or Walk Away - acknowledge and manage your feelings first  "The No-Drama Rule of Management" by Peter Bregman.

• Three Tips for Resolving a Conflict with Your Coworker - Find common ground. Hear what they are saying. Propose a Solution.  "The Right Way to Fight" by Amy Gallo.

• Turn Your Competitors into Allies - first understand where they are coming from."Managing Yourself: Stop Holding Yourself Back" by Anne Morriss, Robin J. Ely, and Frances X. Frei.

• Stop Being So Nice - Reflect. Get feedback. Experiment and evolve "Is Your Culture Too Nice?" by Ron Ashkenas